As Unitarian Universalists, we value the journey of each person. When someone we love dies, the task of our service of memory is to both honor the depth of our grief and to celebrate the richness of his or her life. In our tradition, each Memorial Service is as unique as the life it celebrates. Through readings, music, the eulogy, and sharing of memories, we seek to remember the best of those who have left us and to honor their struggles and joys.
Each service is personally planned between the family and our minister. If the deceased expressed particular wishes for his or her Memorial Service, these are honored as much as possible. Recognizing that many family and friends come from a variety of religious traditions, the service is intended to respect the diversity of people present.
Frequently asked questions about our Memorial Services:
How quickly does a Memorial Service need to be held after a person's death? There is no standard length of time for when a service needs to be held. The most important factor, once burial arrangements have been made, is when the family and friends can gather together. However, since the service does have an important role in the grieving process, it is wise not to hold it off longer than necessary.
Must there be a casket or an urn? For a Memorial Service, no casket or urn needs to be present, although they can be if it is a comfort to the family. Often important pictures may be arranged in front of the sanctuary to help center people's remembrances.
Who gives the eulogy? The eulogy tells the story of a life. Sometimes there is a family member or a close family friend who is comfortable in this role, or a few who might share the eulogy. At other times, family or friends may find it too difficult to speak. Our minister is always available to give the eulogy, if the family wishes.
Does the service need to be held in a church? No. Depending upon the circumstances, the service may appropriately be held in a nursing home, or a family living room, a funeral home, or some other place of memory. The Fellowship's sanctuary, however, is always available for such services.
Do we need to be members of the congregation? No. Our minister officiates for Memorial Services for all members of the community.
Can we bring our own minister? This can be possible, but our congregation's policy is to review such requests on a case by case basis. Please speak with our minister, if you have such a request.
Is there a fee for having a Memorial Service at the Fellowship? There is no fee for either the use of the building or ministerial services for members of the congregation. There are modest fees for non-members. Please contact the office for information about current fees.